How BDSM Affects Your Brain Positively
October 18, 2020
There are many people out there that believe that BDSM is violent, non-consensual, and unsatisfying. The truth is the opposite. As you can probably guess, Fifty Shades of Grey did an awful job depicting the lifestyle behind it, and it created a false picture.
In reality, BDSM can be relaxing, meditative, and similar to the effects people get from yoga. If you are not into BDSM, there is no way we could change your mind, but we can at least explain why this is so much more than kinky sex for so many people across the world.
Sadomasochism Is the New Yoga
Sadomasochism is nothing new. It has been around for quite a while, and people love experimenting with their sexuality and in the bedroom. However, for some, dominance and submission mean a lot more than you can imagine.
BDSM or bondage discipline dominance submission is a wide term that covers a lot of different things and kinks, and the BDSM scene has been stronger than ever. What do BDSM practitioners find so exciting? There are numerous reasons why someone might be into BDSM.
We all know that sex is one of the best ways to relieve stress, and BDSM activities are filled with all kinds of kinky things. Instead of meditating, you can always have fun with your partner, and it might even have better results than yoga.
What is interesting is that some parts of BDSM aren’t even sexual, or at least, they don’t need to be. This includes bondage, pet play, and domination. People enjoy surrendering control, and power exchange is what makes them feel relaxed. For example, a person who is into pet play doesn’t have to do anything sexual; they enjoy being taken care of. Furthermore, kinbaku is a form of bondage where the focus is on creating intricate patterns and surrendering control of one’s body.
These are just some examples of how BDSM (or at least parts of it) can be equally effective as yoga or meditation. Naturally, there is also the other side of it that is purely sexual, but it doesn’t mean that the meditative and relaxing effect is absent.
Finally, indulging their fantasies can be so beneficial for people. They will enjoy every second of the scene, and once it’s over, they will feel fulfilled and happier than they were before they started having fun.
The Benefits of Being a Dom
Since our focus here is on dominant/submissive relationships, let’s take a look at all the benefits that come from being dominant or submissive.
The thing that defines dominant people is power play. They enjoy having all control during the scene, and obviously, indulging their fantasies. However, there is so much more to it than simply being in charge of everything.
When they start engaging in BDSM play, both parties will enter an altered state of consciousness. One of the things that this will cause is heightened focus, and the dominant person will need to learn how to react appropriately and timely. While, in theory, the dom will have all the power in the world to do what they please, things are a bit different in reality.
The submissive person will dictate the rules, and they will do only what makes them feel comfortable. If a sub doesn’t want to do something, then that’s it. So the dominant will also need to improve their sense of intuition and to practice listening. Usually, the conversation before the scene will determine what things are off the table and what they want to try. Once the scene starts, the power is in the hands of the dominant, but only to do the things that were previously agreed upon.
Furthermore, the dominant will also get a chance to reduce self-consciousness and improve their decision-making skills. They are at the wheel, and it is their decision what to do and how to do it. Naturally, a person who is into dominant roles will also experience lower cortisol levels, and cortisol is a stress hormone.
All of this is an addition to the already mentioned benefits that come from having fun and enjoying yourself with a partner.
The Benefits of Being a Sub
To make BDSM enjoyable and even possible, it has to be beneficial for both parties. Now, we will take a look at everything that a sub has to gain if they decide to participate in BDSM scenes.
Submissive people will also experience an altered state of consciousness, but it will be more intense. In addition, they will get a feeling of fulfillment, blissful detachment, and peacefulness. The clear difference between these states of mind is that the dominant will get almost laser-sharp focus, while the sub will experience a high similar to the effect of some drugs.
Of course, this is just the tip of the iceberg for submissive people. Many have noticed that subs also experience enhanced intimacy. They feel vulnerable during the scene, and it is the job of the dominant to make them feel safe in the end. The same thing applies to pet play where people are into being groomed and taken care of. Consequently, they will connect and bond with that person even further. Needless to say, it will also lead to heightened trust between the two.
For those that are under a lot of stress every time they need to make a decision, being a sub is a dream come true. They are not the ones in charge of the decisions, and all they have to do is sit back, relax, and let someone else do it for them. It is a win-win situation.
During and after the scene, the person will experience euphoria and peace. As with the doms, this type of role-playing is fulfilling in so many different ways. They will indulge in their fantasies, which is always incredible, and it is an excellent way to reduce stress.
Summary
There are many people with kinky fantasies across the globe. It seems that the BDSM community keeps growing, and more and more kinky people are willing to experiment with their partners.
Indulging your fantasies can be relaxing, fulfilling, and it can positively affect one’s mental health. It doesn’t matter if you are sub or dom. The only thing that matters is that you enjoy every scene with your partner, and it will make you feel better than ever.
